New Moon Ceremony
Coming of Age Ceremony
This is a beautiful heart-centred ceremony to experience with your daughter as she makes her transition from childhood to womanhood.
Gather an intimate group of your daughters friends, with their own mother or significant woman in their life, and together we will sit in circle with these emerging women and pave the way for a different experience of womanhood; one that is honoured, revered and looked forward to with ease and excitement.
We can tailor your ceremony to reflect the group of girls present, discuss what your intention or desired feeling is that you’d like them to leave the experience with, along with any specific rituals you’d like to include to create a truly magical moment in time, that all daughters present will remember for the rest of their lives.
Womanhood can be a magnificent experience and we want our daughters to know the power they posses within their feminine.
As they transform into women, we can create a space that creates a container to say all the un-said things, to hand down the wisdom and power we want them to have as they lead their own life.
No matter your groups background or personal family discussions, we can open the doors for many conversations and considerations as both she and you make this transition.
Over 3 hours, your ceremony can include:
Rituals designed to honour the beauty within each daughter
Rituals designed to bring to light the wisdom of each mother present, to share with all daughters present
A guide into understanding the female cycle and our ancestral experience of moon time
Connecting and bonding experiences to share your heart with your daughter, as you offer her a place to revere this passage she is making
Meditation, mindfulness and/or embodiment practices
A beautiful ceremony that marks the importance of this rite of passage and offers your daughter a different foray into awakening heart, mind, body and soul
Discussions designed to ‘hand down’ vital womens knowledge, in an accessible way. Topics can include nutrition, skin care, a woman's cycle, natural medicines that help, what to do when you have your first period, what it is to be a woman, courtship or companionship, sacred sexuality, mental health. If you’d like to open up a discussion on any particular topic, please just include it in your message (select only 1-2 topics).
What is not made sacred becomes shameful.
This is a ceremony designed to flip on its head our cultural perception of womanhood “being a curse” and instead paves the way for the conversation of it being a great privilege and gift.
What a different experience our girls will have when allowed a sacred space to explore what it is to be a woman who loves her body, who listens to her intuition, and who knows pleasure and reverence is her birth rite.
Ceremony Service Price: $700
Includes phone conversation to conceptualise your ceremony
follow up email detailing all the information you need to pass on to the mothers of the group, to gather and create what is needed for your uniquely designed rituals.
Creation of your circles unique and personalised New Moon Ceremony wisdom book, which is gifted to each daughter present.
A small token-gift from each of the four elements we call upon during the Ceremony, gifted with blessings to each daughter present.
I suggest you share all the information with the group you’d like to open it up to and talk about dividing the costs up, as a per daughter price, to equally hold ownership in the process of creating this intentional experience.
You can create your own special invites, or simply create a Facebook Messenger group (or the likes) so there is one spot to place all the information and reminders for what to bring. There are a few logistics necessary to organise and orchestrate a ceremony, so there needs to be one mother who will take on this role for the circle, and with whom I will communicate.
Additional Extra Options
Flower Crown Making
You can include flower crown making for the daughters of the group (the mums too if you want to!) during your ceremony. This can be a beautiful ritual shared between mother and daughter and there is just something magical that happens when women place a crown on their head!
Cost to supply materials: $10 per crown (does not include flowers or foliage)
An additional option for mothers of the group is to have a corsage made with the same flowers as on their daughters crown. Part of your ceremony can include both flower crown and corsage making, with the shared flowers and foliage each mother/daughter pair chooses and brings.
Cost to supply materials: $10 per corsage (does not include flowers or foliage)
Smudging stick Making
As part of energy clearing, you can include smudging stick making with your ceremony group. I will bring all materials with me for each mother/daughter pair to create their own smudging stick to take home.
Cost to supply all necessary materials: $80 per 10 smudging sticks (flowers and foliage only)
Include a crystal for each smudging stick: $15 per crystal
What age is best?
I recommend waiting till your daughter is around Grade 6 of school, roughly 11-12 years old, but you can have a circle for young women of any age from there!
What if a daughter in our community doesn’t have a mother that can be present?
If you don’t have a mother, ask someone to be ‘your moon mother’. What older woman in this daughters life would you/they like to be her mentor when she grows up?
How do i talk to my daughter about it?
I recommend using language that is honouring and open and has an air of excitement; same as you would approach any celebration for birthdays, faith or graduations. That’s what this is, a ceremony where she is celebrated for becoming a woman and handed down wisdom with love on what it is to be a woman, and how to move about in this world as one.
It isn’t supposed to be daunting, or scary, or awkward, or even too serious! This is a special event, created with beauty and fun where she gets to be loved and adored by her mother, and the mothers around her, and learn the stories of her journey and some of the women’s mysteries, so she may move forward into her adolescence and womanhood with more knowledge and ease.
Talk about the ceremony’s beauty. Talk about the fun you’ll have as a ‘girls-day out’ to something really special. Talk about what you’ll wear and the flowers in your hair. Talk about the feeling you want her to carry out of it; beauty, fun, excitement, reverence, pride…
Say that you want her to know more than you did, that you want her to be able to make more empowered choices in her life; and unless you know what’s possible, unless you hear lived experience that inspires you, unless you know what choices you have access to, you don’t have empowered and informed choice.
Talk about getting curious, and taking a bit of a leap of faith, in order to move out of a comfort zone just long enough to realise she has wings and her world is larger than she knows right now.
This opportunity is sacred and it’s a gift.
Can I host a ceremony if no one has been to one before?
Yes! What you’ll find is that women and young women alike, when given the opportunity, will willingly walk a path into themselves and offer love to those women around them. Most of the ceremony’s and circles I run are with women who have never been to one before, or who wouldn’t normally attend something ‘like that’.
Being an experienced leader I am able to hold a vibe, or intention, of the group, without it being too intimidating or ‘woo-woo’. I will create a seamless transition through a journey of rituals designed to hold connection, share wisdom and experience the reverence and love for the feminine and the mother-daughter relationship.
I’m not sure my daughters friends mums would be into it….I might not have enough for a circle!
Just put it out there! If you feel a calling to honour your daughter as she crosses this threshold, don’t ignore that desire! Share it!
Let your daughters friends know what you’d like to do, and why, and share the link to this page so they can explore it for themselves. Most women in our culture are unaccustomed to feeling honoured for being a woman, never having experienced reverence for their feminine, or the transitions they themselves have made. Often the mums you’ll know won’t know something like this is possible, or even available! Given the space, time and intentional ‘container’ to experience something like this, most women want their daughter to have the experience they themselves never had the opportunity to.
You can have a circle with two women, there really isn’t a minimum number, however I advise keeping your circle to 15 girls or less, so that the integrity of each experience is maintained.
My daughter feels ‘icky’ about it. It’s not for us. She’s not ready.
These are the reasons not take part that I hear often, so be prepared to hear them yourself if you are the host! There are a few points I wish to make about these here:
The very fact that a period seems scary and anxiety-laded, or ‘down there’ and ‘sexuality’ seems shrouded in shame and secrecy, or even just plain weird are the very reasons to be involved!
Through the experience of this ceremony, we have an opportunity to open up conversations we otherwise wouldn’t have, and to undo the family patterns we ourselves grew up in, so our daughters may connect more truthfully and powerfully with their own body and sense of worthiness, and have the option to make more empowered choices or choose a different path if they so desire…we only know what’s possible by what we see around us.
It’s often our own judgements, shame stories and difficult experiences that keep us from really opening up a ‘sticky’ conversation with our own daughters. Those ‘icky’ feelings arise in us, the ones they are triggering by entering this age and by virtue of considering this circle, and we want to run from them, just as we did ‘back then’. But what if there could be a space in which a wise woman was leading the group in and out of vulnerability, story and learning so this information came with less pressure and was delivered in an honouring way?…
Let them decide what they are ready for and when! What they are not ready for, they won’t actually hear anyway, but there will be a seed that is planted by virtue of hearing wise, women’s wisdom. One day, when they themselves decide they are ready, they will remember this seed and they will seek out the answers, knowing there is a gateway because of this ceremony.
Many parts of this ceremony are designed to connect the girls to the circle of wisdom that they have come from, and that surrounds them, so one day when they feel ready or need to know, they can look up and see parts of themselves reflected in the women around them, and have a type of map to journey this phase of life they find themselves in.
You can’t will someone else’s timing on them. For some, or many, reasons this might not be the right time or avenue for this mother and daughter. That doesn’t mean they won’t find it in other ways and at other times. So let it go. Whoever needs to be there will be.